That Thing You Do

People are really beautiful. There are so many quirks and unique qualities about the select mix of characteristics within each person. Especially those people who you can tell are genuine and true to who they are inside. Their inner self- the self that exists in the space between thoughts, the energy beneath the words and the expression, the phenomenon under the skin. 

The Inner Workings of the Journey to Healing.

This path I've chosen, the one I encourage you to take to empower yourself- the one I help people walk with the energy work and counselling I do, entails some real hard work. It's hard work because it means that you must be brutally honest with yourself.

That you take out all your innermost demons and hidden feelings out of the closet and look at them in the face, and then send them love and forgiveness to set them free. To rustle up the uncomfortable and the unfamiliar, and to simultaneously let go of baggage that has become so comfortingly familiar and has helped keep a defense against all that could potentially hurt us. 

It means to realize that they are mostly constructs of a child's way of protecting the self- and that's what the ego really is. It's a child's reaction of not just putting up armour against the world, but also adapting to what it's told is true, trying to squelch all those other thoughts that came from a different place from what it was taught by society and tradition and culture to.

A Life Fearfully Lived... No Longer.

I've met many people in my life who advocate fear as a motivator. I understand where they're coming from, in their eyes they can only keep pushing themselves to do the best they can, if they have impending doom chasing right behind them. Another aspect that they might not acknowledge but may be rooted in the back of their minds, is the belief that fear keeps us safe from the shock of impending doom hitting us. A person who is fearful of the worst, may feel like they are prepared for the worst. 

The Love You Seek.

So often we go around looking for others to assure ourselves that we are worthy of being loved. Yet, even when we find someone who repeatedly tells us we are loved, there is a part of us, deep down in our innermost recesses, that doesn't believe this. 

We look for ways to undermine their love, to push them to see how far they will go. Alternatively, we cling to them, believing that as long as they love us we count for something- we are of value because they value us. We lose our definition of who we are- instead we try to become more of the person that we believe that they want us to be. If they treat us any differently for any reason we lapse into a fear of losing them. Unhealthy co-dependency issues fester and the fear of abandonment keeps us in relationships that have outlived their expiry dates.